Too Good To Be True

OR…

    waiting for the other shoe to drop.

 

Heard this before?

How often do so many of us hold our breath, cross our fingers and reach for our lucky rabbit’s foot (never understood why a dismembered part of an animal can bring luck) when we think something is too good to be true?

 

Is it too risky to just believe that something wonderful can happen without keeping

ourselves suspended in doubt?

For some of us, being doubtful of good fortune is a coping mechanism that can help protect us from disappointment and feelings of gullibility when our expectations don’t work out.

Is it more comfortable to say to ourselves?

I knew it! I knew it was too good to be true!” “I was right!”Nothing is that good.”

 Or can we give ourselves permission to believe that something wonderful just might be possible even though it sounds too good to be true and hope for the best?

And if the best doesn’t work out can we risk disappointment?

That depends on how we’ve conditioned ourselves to navigate through life’s hurdles.

We can try to shield ourselves from life’s disappointments by maintaining a “I’m not going to believe it till I see it” attitude. This might, on some level, help some of us prepare for any sadness we might feel when things don’t pan out.

But when we routinely resist believing that something spectacular can actually flow into our lives, we may actually be feeding a low level of self-worth… “Am I really worthy of this great event, situation, relationship, etc….do I deserve this?”

And are we robbing ourselves of the present level of happiness we may experience by imagining this wonderful possibility?

So, what if it doesn’t turn out the way we imagined it?

We take a deep breath, process and reframe:

“Even though that didn’t work out the way I had hoped, maybe next time it will”

“Even though that was disappointing, it’s ok.  I’ll get through this the best way I can”

“Let me think of something else that might work out better”

“Even though I thought for sure this was the real deal, I can work on letting it go.”

 

Maintaining an optimistic life perspective with a belief that things are good enough to be true, even if that risks vulnerability, helps us to stay open, connected and in the present. It is from this place of trust that we can be more available to learn and grow from different situations and outcomes which keeps us moving forward.

 

*Thanks Sylvia 😊

So, the next time something wonderful shows up in your life, instead of waiting for the other shoe to drop, keep your feet firmly planted and repeat in your best positive mantra voice,

 

“I believe!

“I believe!

“I believe! “

 

*It’s important to note here that during any dark times in our lives (sudden illness, significant financial loss, mental health issues, etc.)  it is challenging at best to maintain an optimistic attitude when there are significant reasons to be concerned about an outcome. It is during those times of grief that doubt and heavy heartedness are certainly understandable but this is not the focus of today’s blog.

 

Thanks for reading,

Brunnie Getchell

M.Ed., Mental Health Counselor, Life Coach, Advanced Certified Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master and Author of eBook, Finding Happiness Even Without a Fairy Tale Childhood

11 thoughts on “Too Good To Be True”

  1. Once again, you are spot-on. Believing that we are worthy of good things happening to us can be challenging. And even more challenging is when we hope for things that just don’t pan out. It’s then that it’s so important to regroup and say, “Oh well, it would have been nice,but sometimes things don’t go our way! I will survive this!”

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    1. Totally agree Marilyn. Believing that we are worthy of good things happening to us is probably at the core of our confidence issues. Letting things go and moving on can be quite the challenge but we will survive 🙂

      Thanks for your comment,
      Brunnie

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  2. I always tell myself when that shoe drops and believe me I’ve had the whole damn closet full of them drop..that these are life’s lessons .that there is some silver lining..some truth if you may about myself that i needed to experience , so that I can know what hope and joy are.
    Without the hope that things will get better there’s nothing but gloom and doom.. depression and darkness..
    I have to believe when the shoe drops on my head that I am awakened into looking at another possibility of living.. time is limited ..i found that out when I got the pervereable boot..i would not b where I am today had I not been so called kicked around a bit..kinda like that childhood game I use to play..kick the can..lots of dings and dents but I always use to see how far and high I could kick that can always getting some kind of excitement out of it..
    Anyways your blog Brunnie made me think of all the shoes that have dropped and to see now that I am in a place of contentment and serenity..

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    1. Thank You so much for your beautiful heartfelt words Dot. I know that you can totally understand how the “whole damn closet full of shoes” can drop but am inspired by your words that joy and hope can still prevail. You are definitely an example of how hope and despair can exist within moments of each other…but without darkness we can’t see the stars.

      Be well my dear friend,
      Brunnie

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  3. Your blogs are always a “teachable moment” and a reality check. Thank you for letting us know that living the best life requires constant renewal of our mindset. 😘

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    1. Love how you stated that “living our best life requires constant renewal of our mindset”. While our level of happiness can fluctuate from day to day, it is always our perspective ( mindset) that allows us to move forward with gratitude even with uncertainty and imperfection.

      Enjoy 🙂

      B

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    1. Yes, the power of an open mindset! Maintaining a positive attitude despite bumps along the way helps us to stay resilient and flexible. Wishing you an awesome school year 🙂
      XO,
      Brunnie

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  4. Thank you for reminding me of all the joy in my life….I a grateful for all of it….But if there are time when the other shoe drops, I just find another pair of shoes….Hopefully a pair with lots of glitter…lots of sparkle….Love your message, Brunnie! xoxo

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    1. Yes! When the shoe drops find another pair that has even more sparkle and glitter and then move on…maybe even do a tap dance 🙂
      Glad you were reminded of all the joy in your life.
      Thanks for your comments.

      XO

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