waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Heard this before?
How often do so many of us hold our breath, cross our fingers and reach for our lucky rabbit’s foot (never understood why a dismembered part of an animal can bring luck) when we think something is too good to be true?
Is it too risky to just believe that something wonderful can happen without keeping
ourselves suspended in doubt?
For some of us, being doubtful of good fortune is a coping mechanism that can help protect us from disappointment and feelings of gullibility when our expectations don’t work out.
Is it more comfortable to say to ourselves?
“I knew it! I knew it was too good to be true!” “I was right!” “Nothing is that good.”
Or can we give ourselves permission to believe that something wonderful just might be possible even though it sounds too good to be true and hope for the best?
And if the best doesn’t work out can we risk disappointment?
That depends on how we’ve conditioned ourselves to navigate through life’s hurdles.
We can try to shield ourselves from life’s disappointments by maintaining a “I’m not going to believe it till I see it” attitude. This might, on some level, help some of us prepare for any sadness we might feel when things don’t pan out.
But when we routinely resist believing that something spectacular can actually flow into our lives, we may actually be feeding a low level of self-worth… “Am I really worthy of this great event, situation, relationship, etc….do I deserve this?”
And are we robbing ourselves of the present level of happiness we may experience by imagining this wonderful possibility?
So, what if it doesn’t turn out the way we imagined it?
We take a deep breath, process and reframe:
“Even though that didn’t work out the way I had hoped, maybe next time it will”
“Even though that was disappointing, it’s ok. I’ll get through this the best way I can”
“Let me think of something else that might work out better”
“Even though I thought for sure this was the real deal, I can work on letting it go.”
Maintaining an optimistic life perspective with a belief that things are good enough to be true, even if that risks vulnerability, helps us to stay open, connected and in the present. It is from this place of trust that we can be more available to learn and grow from different situations and outcomes which keeps us moving forward.
*Thanks Sylvia 😊
So, the next time something wonderful shows up in your life, instead of waiting for the other shoe to drop, keep your feet firmly planted and repeat in your best positive mantra voice,
“I believe! “
*It’s important to note here that during any dark times in our lives (sudden illness, significant financial loss, mental health issues, etc.) it is challenging at best to maintain an optimistic attitude when there are significant reasons to be concerned about an outcome. It is during those times of grief that doubt and heavy heartedness are certainly understandable but this is not the focus of today’s blog.
Thanks for reading,
M.Ed., Mental Health Counselor, Life Coach, Advanced Certified Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master and Author of eBook, Finding Happiness Even Without a Fairy Tale Childhood